Divorce is never an easy thing to get over. There is the whole process itself. But what comes after that? Things become harder when there are children are thrown into the mix. Mothers are often put in the spotlight to keep everything together. They are expected to keep the children happy and present a united front. But who keeps them together? What keeps them from breaking down? You have to take care of yourself before you burn out. Here are some tips for self-care that will pick you right back up.
Make Some Changes Around Your House
You are going to need to get out some of that stress. Why not go around the house and look at what you want to change? It’s about time, too. The longer you’ve lived in a house, the more comfortable you become with the way things are. You might not want to move away. 61% of people will choose to renovate their home instead of move if they’ve lived in their home for longer than six years. Now that you are divorced, why not let some of that creative energy out to play and undergo some renovation or remodeling projects? Paint the walls a different color. Decorate your room with a theme that you always wanted. Donate some things that you don’t use anymore. Go ahead and change things around your home. You may feel relief afterward.
Find a New Hobby That Is Both Fulfilling and Fun
Why not looking for something new to do? Have you always wanted to try something, but never had the time or courage to do it? Now you have the time to do it. Learn a second language. Get into something artistic. Take up a new sport. You have more time in your life now. Don’t waste it on feeling sorry for yourself or dwelling in stress. You have better things to do with your time. When you find a new hobby, you will be happier and less stressed when you are ready to tackle each day.
Enjoy a Spa Day At Home
The spa is a popular way to relax and unwind. Since you can’t go out to the spa during COVID-19, you can bring the spa to you. Turn your kitchen or master bathroom into a spa. Take a nice hot bubble bath. Do a soak for your feet and paint your toenails, and play some relaxing music while you’re at it. You can give yourself a facial. However, you have to be careful with some products that you want to use for your little spa day. After six months, some pharmacy-brand creams lose 50% of their antioxidant capability. So, be sure to read the labels before you buy skin products.
Visit With Friends
It’s also important to go out and see your friends. You could call a friend or pop by their house just to say hello. If you want a longer visit, plan a lunch or dinner date. Seeing close friends and being able to have adult conversations over a meal is a great way to spend time with those you care about. It’s also a good way to de-stress if you have children at home, too.
Talk To a Professional
There is no shame in talking to a therapist about your problems. Nowadays, it’s becoming more and more of the norm. You can talk to one in person, over the phone, or through a video chat. Things like Talk Space have made it easier for people to get in touch with a therapist. With your divorce, you may be worried about spending money on a therapist. You’re not alone, as 50% of Americans have less than $10,000 saved in their bank accounts. However, there are several ways to seek mental health counseling services. Where you work may offer resources that provide free counseling to employees, or your health insurance may cover a large portion of therapy sessions. Do your research and find what will work best for you.
You have to do everything in your power to take care of yourself. People need you. You can’t afford to burn out at times like this, so take the time to take care of yourself. Your family and mental health will thank you for it.