Our Christmas Gift – A Birth Story (Attempted VBAC, a TOLAC, and Cesarean)

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Why I hate pregnancy

Pregnancy has always been something I hated. I know most people say they enjoy being pregnant but I have never been one of those people. I’ve never had that pregnancy ‘glow’ and I certainly didn’t beam with excitement. In fact I hated even talking about being pregnant. We didn’t tell many people I was pregnant for any of my pregnancies, and waited as long as possible to do so once we did tell people. Pregnancy has just never been my thing.

With all three of my children I experienced terrible sickness all throughout my first trimester, and sometimes well into my second. The third trimester typically was highly uncomfortable, and the fear of birth always caused me anxiety. With the exception of my first child, I have been fearful of dying in childbirth because surgery scares me. The closer we get to the actually due date the more this anxiety and fear kicks in.

In addition to the actual pregnancy, recovery is always painful and debilitating. Because of the surgery recovery takes longer and can be painful (especially when you forget to take your pain meds).

Is there a choice once you’ve had a c-section?

After having a c-section with my first child I assumed there was no other choice. I have always been told that once you have a c-section you will always have to have a c-section. My mom told me this (she had two c-sections as well). Friends, family, and even some doctors also told me the same. It seems everyone just assumed that was how it worked.

For my second child we just went ahead and picked a date for a planned c-section because I assumed that was what we were supposed to do, and no one offered my any other options or suggested otherwise.

You can learn a lot in a year

It has now been over four years since I’ve had my second child and I’ve learned a lot in those four years. I’ve actually learned a lot in just the past year alone. I now know that it is actually considered safer for mom and baby to go the route of a vaginal birth EVEN IF YOU’VE ONLY GIVEN BIRTH VIA C-SECTION previously.

No one ever told me this. I had to actually seek out this information on my own. My doctors didn’t suggest it, nor did they offer it as an option. It was just once again assumed that I would have a repeat c-section because it was easier. I don’t know who it is easier for to be honest, the doctors I suppose. I found several documentaries, online articles, and local support groups (ICAN was a great resource for this) that offered a great amount of information and support.

The only thing that would have made my decision easier is if my husband was on board with it. He of course was okay with whatever decision I made, but he would make comments like “it would just be easier if you scheduled it like last time.” For a person who is already an emotional wreck, this is not really the response you are looking for from the person who is supposed to be your biggest supporter. I was going to go ahead with the VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) either way and he knew that, but sometimes he just doesn’t realize how insensitive his comments can be. To him it may be a joke, or something that is supposed to be funny, but to me it just came across as unsupportive.

Greater risks with every repeat cesarean

I also learned that for every c-section you have the risks are greater each time. My doctor actually went into great detail about the risks of surgery and VBAC once I told her my plans. I was made to sign a consent form notating that I understood the risks in both scenarios. I was at least grateful that the hospital was as accommodating to my requests as they were because I’ve heard many places won’t even consider allowing you to attempt a VBAC, but after this appointment I was actually scared out of my mind to deliver this baby either way — vaginally or via cesarean. I don’t know if the intent was to scare the shit out of me but that is pretty much what happened.

So now I was not only nervous about the possibility of yet another surgery, but also scared shitless about delivering vaginally — which I had never done before. Risks of delivering vaginally after a c-section include things like uterine rupture and possible hysterectomy. Great, so now I’m a big ball of hormones and an emotional wreck just thinking about my baby that is due in three weeks!

Doing things different this time

I didn’t decide until about 7 1/2 – 8 months in that I wanted to attempt a VBAC. The reason I waited so long is because I didn’t have a ton of information about doing VBAC until I was well into my pregnancy, and didn’t realize what all of my options were. Once I researched vaginal birth after cesarean I knew that I had to at least try. I felt it was the safer option for both me and my baby.

Once I made that decision it felt like a relief to actually know what I wanted to do and how I wanted things to go. I made up my birth plan, and made sure my husband knew exactly what I wanted to happen. He was still nervous about doing things this way, and his previous jokes were probably his nerves coming out, but he told me he felt like it was going to all be a huge rush “just like in the movies” which really scared him.

I continued to educate myself on delivering vaginally after a cesarean and tried to get things prepared around the house. I prepped all of our cloth diapers, got the breast pump sterilized and ready to go, washed the baby clothes and put everything away. All we had to do now was wait. And wait. And wait some more. Baby actually didn’t come on my due date so I decided to go ahead and schedule a c-section for 10 days past my due date in case she didn’t come naturally before that time. There was no way I was going to go through an induction like I did with my first, and my research said that use of labor inducing medications increases your risk for a repeat c-section anyway. If that was going to be the likely outcome, I was just going to skip the whole induction part.

Waiting for baby – I’m an emotional mess

With this being my third pregnancy I honestly thought I would go early, or at least by my due date. My husband figured we would make it to our schedule c-section date and all would be right in his world. I really didn’t want to wait that long as it was ten days past my due date and it meant I wouldn’t get to give my body a chance to do what it is supposed to do.

Luckily I didn’t have to wait ten days. Four days past my due date I was still chugging along with my huge pregnant belly. This pregnancy has felt different from the other two in that I’ve never really felt uncomfortable in my pregnant body, and I didn’t have a huge desire for it to be over other than when I started becoming very emotional at the end. In fact this day was a particularly emotional one for me. I started out the day finishing up some blog posts relatively early in the morning. I never work early in the morning but I just got it in my head that if I didn’t do them that morning the posts wouldn’t get done.

After I was done working I got my four and six year old ready to head to town for a birthday party at the children’s museum. One of my daughter’s friends was turning five and we were invited to celebrate. We left a little early as we had to stop and pick up a gift bag from the store and decided to eat lunch out that day. Once we arrived at the children’s museum we spent the next three hours playing and walking around the three floors of the interactive museum.

After the party started to wind down we headed home and I started to get very frustrated with my kids because they were constantly fighting with each other and I wasn’t really in the mood to deal with it. My daughter had also fallen asleep on the way home and was in a really bad mood when I woke her up to come in the house. Normally I would have just carried her into the house and let her sleep, but as I was 41 weeks pregnant that wasn’t going to happen. She literally laid on the floor in the hallway screaming for me to go get her toy off the floor or she would never get up. Never.

I was so frustrated with her that I started to yell at her, which is something I have been working very hard not to do, and at one point even tried to pick her up and put her on the couch. That didn’t go well for either of us as I almost missed the couch, and she just jumped off anyway and lay right back on the floor to resume her fit throwing. I just let her lie there at that point. I couldn’t deal with it. I was spent.

At this point I just wanted to go lock myself in my room and hide from everyone and everything. Which is pretty much what I did as soon as my husband got home from work. I was emotional, crying, and just didn’t want to deal with the world anymore. My daughter stood outside my door and kicked the door non-stop until I let her in. I’m sure many parents can relate. Why do kids always feel the need to be right in your personal space at the moment you need to be alone? I just let her in and had her lay next to me in bed. We talked for a bit and she calmed down as we just spent the next ten or fifteen minutes lying in bed hugging. Eventually we both got out of bed and made our way into the living room to join everyone else.

My husband plays basketball on Saturday nights in a local pick-up game and told the kids they could go with. He was trying to help give me some time to myself. Before they left something in me changed. I can’t explain it, I just knew something was different. I told my husband that tonight was going to be the night. He said he would have his phone on him and call if anything happened. They left the house at about 6:50 so he could be at the gym at 7:00 when the games started.

Welcoming baby No. 3 – My birth story

After my husband and the kids left for the gym I sat on the couch thinking I was just going to relax for the next hour, maybe take a shower, and enjoy spending some time alone. About 15 minutes after everyone left it happened.

7:10 pm   I felt a huge gush of some liquid leaking out. Vaginal discharge wasn’t anything new for me for this pregnancy, I’ve had some discharge throughout my entire pregnancy but this was different. This was a lot. The pad I was wearing was soaked through and that has never happened before. There was also a little blood with the discharge.

The blood had me a little nervous. If it was just a clear discharge I probably wouldn’t even raised a flag, but because there was also blood I thought something must have changed. The only thing that didn’t make sense is that I wasn’t really having any contractions. I’d have a few here and there (like one every few hours or so), but nothing significant.

Since I’ve never actually been in labor before I decided to call my mom. She has never actually experienced it either since she had two c-sections, so she wasn’t sure what to tell me and suggested I call the nurse. So after I hung up with her what did I do? Nothing. Yep, I decided I would just wait and see. I went online and googled “how do I know if my water broke” and really couldn’t find much that helped me figure it out, but every time I stood up more liquid gushed out.

At this point I figured my water must have broke and I should probably be checked out. I called my husband to tell him my water broke — he didn’t answer. I had to leave him a message!

I decided that while I waited for him to call me back I would call labor and delivery and see what they had to say. The nurse said the only way to tell was to come in and be tested but it certainly sounded like my water broke. I asked her if there was any way to test at home since the drive to the hospital would take us at least an hour, but she said there wasn’t any way to do that. Looked like we would be making the trek to the hospital after all.

Just as I was finishing up my call with the nurse my husband called back and said he was on his way. He was going to try to drop the kids off at his mom’s house on the way.

7:30 pm  My husband arrives home — with the kids. His mom wasn’t home so we were taking them with us. He immediately went into panic mode running around like he didn’t know what to do. I already had my bag all packed and was ready to go, I just had to wait on him to shower and get his stuff ready. He really didn’t think I would go into labor so he had nothing packed and ready to go. Nothing.

Once he finished showering and we had the car packed we headed to the hospital on a snowy night in December. I made him stop at the gas station and get some food and gum since he hadn’t eaten, plus I wasn’t having contractions so I was in no rush.

9:00 pm  We arrived at the hospital and were admitted into labor and delivery. The nurse checked me and confirmed my water had broke so I would be staying. Then the fun began.

For the first hour nothing exciting really happened, I was having contractions but few and far between. The resident on duty checked me and I had not dilated at all, plus my cervix was still way back (I guess it moves forward as you progress?).

The kids were in the room checking out the pullout bed, the water-birth tub, and everything else in the room. My husband finally got in touch with his mom and they said they would come out to the hospital and pick up the kids.

10:30 pm   The resident, nurse, and I discussed what the plan of action was going to be since my water had already broke. They told me the risk for infection is greater once your water breaks so we need to decide how we want to proceed. He was also concerned that I wasn’t have contractions, but I told him they were starting to come regularly now and were getting stronger. I really didn’t want to make any decisions at this point, I just wanted to let my body have a chance to do what it was supposed to do. He decided that he would check back with me at 12:30 am and we would discuss options at that point.

The contractions were picking up at this point and becoming more regular, and a little stronger. They weren’t horrible — yet. I was also still able to eat my beloved ice chips. I love eating ice chips and have done so throughout my whole pregnancy.

12:30 am  The nurse came and talked to me and said the resident was unavailable right now so we were just going to wait a couple more hours and see what happened. That was actually perfectly fine by me. The contractions were getting a bit stronger at this point and I was optimistic changes were happening.

1:30 am  I still haven’t talked to the resident but the nurse decided to check my progress herself. She said she really couldn’t tell and wanted the doctor to come in and check me to see where I was at.  These contractions are really coming now — wow they can be painful!

2:30 am  I was finally checked by the doctor on call and she said that my cervix had moved forward but I still wasn’t dilating much. She wanted to discuss possibly using pitocin to move things along, or see how I felt about just going ahead with the repeat c-section. Neither of those options really sounded appealing to me and I think they could see in my face how much I detested both choices. She said that we could just wait a few more hours and see how I was progressing since my contractions were really strong at this point. I agreed that this was a good idea and we decided that at 6:30 am she would check me again. They also told me no more ice chips. Ugh… I need my ice chips!

The nurse offered me pain medication at this point but I didn’t think I needed/wanted it. But holy shit were these contractions getting strong. I made my husband give me his hand whenever they came and I really squeezed the crap out of it each time. Squeezing his hand seemed to help a little, but the pain was really really intense. I had him apply some pressure to my back a few times too and he told me he could feel my back spasm during one of my contractions.

The contractions continued to get stronger and closer together as the hours wore on, and they were steadily coming about 1-2 minutes apart now. I seriously have never felt such pain in my life. At this point I was starting to re-think this whole natural birth thing because oh my lord the pain. Plus the contractions were so close I never really got a break to relax in between. I decided to go ahead with the IV pain meds at this point.

3:30 am  The nurse told me I could have medication every two hours, so I got my first dose at about 3:30 am and it literally lasted for about 4-5 contractions before it didn’t seem to have any effect any more. It did dull the pain a little, but I could still feel those insanely painful contractions — EVERY ONE OF THEM.

Not much changed between this first dose and the second other than my husband going to sleep on the pull-out, and I think I did actually fall asleep for a bit after the nurse gave me the second dose at about 5:30 am. I surely didn’t sleep long though as those IV pain meds do not last long.

6:30 am  The doctor came in again and checked my progress. I still hadn’t changed much. I was so disappointed that after all night and all those contractions my body still hadn’t made any progress. I was certain that it was doing what it was supposed to be doing, and I would be able to deliver this baby vaginally. I was pretty much crushed at this point because I didn’t see my body changing much, even if we did decide to do pitocin. At this point I decided it would be best for me and my baby to go ahead with the repeat c-section and bring our baby girl into the world.

7:00 am  They started prepping me for surgery, I talked to the anesthesiologist, the new nurse who would be taking care of me (shift change was at 7:00), and several of the doctors. The nurses shaved me in the area the incision would be placed, got my IV fluids started, and got everything ready to go.

The only thing we had to wait for was the room to be ready and for the doctor to check on a few other patients who also needed c-sections. As long as they were stable I would be going first since I had been there the longest.

7:40 am (approx)   I was walked down to the surgery room and given my spinal injection to numb me from the chest down. It actually took a few tries as the first couple attempts I could feel when they stuck the needle in my skin and I would move. After the numbing agents finally kicked in and we waited for a contraction to end, they injection was given and started to take effect pretty fast.

As they were continuing to prep me I was talking to the anesthesiologist who was actually a great conversationalist and I was really grateful he was in the room (my husband wasn’t in the room yet). He pretty much talked to me the whole time the surgical team was prepping me, and throughout the surgery.

My husband was let in after a few minutes and he started taking pictures. They allowed us to have a camera in the room so we have some really great pictures of baby being born. During this time I was still just chatting it up with the anesthesiologist. The next thing I knew he told me she was almost out. Almost out! I didn’t even know they had started yet. Seriously…I thought they were still prepping me and here they were well along and my baby was almost born!

8:06 am  Our beautiful baby girl was delivered via c-section and immediately started screaming. All of my kids have been criers, which is a good thing. It is such a relief to hear a huge scream come from your baby and you know they are okay. The nurses took her and cleaned her up, handed her to daddy and I was able to see her right away. Then the pediatrician and daddy left to go finish cleaning her up and check her out. They returned a few minutes later and daddy was able to stay in the room with baby by my side. It was a really nice experience as they never allowed that in my previous surgeries.

After a bit they left the room as I was getting stitched up. It didn’t take too long (about an hour) and I was back in my room with my newborn baby girl. She was so sweet and perfect. I got to feed her, then I had breakfast myself. I was so hungry since I hadn’t eaten anything but a couple pieces of my kids’ hot dog the night before. (My husband thinks this picture is hilarious — I don’t know why, I was hungry!)

birth story - hungry

Would I do things differently?

If I had known that my trial of labor (TOLAC – Trial of Labor After Cesarean) would end up in a repeat c-section of course I would have just opted to have the surgery right away. But not knowing — I would do the same thing all over again. I still believe it is the best option for me and baby, and even though it didn’t work out for me to deliver vaginally (and the pain was the most horrendous thing I’ve ever felt in my life) I would try to do so again if the chance ever presented itself.

I do not plan on having any more children but by some miracle should I end up with another child, I would go the same route. VBAC may not be the best choice for everyone, but for me it was the only choice.



So tell us…

What is your birth story? 

Jesica H

When she isn’t drowning in a pile of never-ending laundry or picking up Legos, Jesica is busy helping other parents make their lives a little less stressful with homemaking hacks, easy recipes, fun DIY projects, and more. On her successful blog, The Mommy Bunch, her Cricut crafting tutorials are the most popular articles and are what sparked her passion for helping others build a business of their own. Jesica started rockyourcraft.com where you can find loads more craft tutorials and business advice. In her FREE Facebook group, Rock Your Craft Business, Jesica teaches other entrepreneurs how to take their craft business to the next level by building their brand, targeting the right customers, and utilizing smart social media strategies. Join us!

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36 thoughts on “Our Christmas Gift – A Birth Story (Attempted VBAC, a TOLAC, and Cesarean)

  • December 30, 2013 at 7:25 pm
    My cousin had her first baby via C-section, but the following three were all delivered vaginally, and just fine too! Reply
    • December 30, 2013 at 7:34 pm
      Glad to know it worked out for her. In fact most people do have success... I'm just one of the unlucky few whose body just doesn't like to cooperate, lol. Reply
  • December 30, 2013 at 8:13 pm
    Any birth story is a miracle! Glad everything turned out ok. I had 3 csections and it was tough, but I have 3 healthy kids and I'm very blessed. Now you can just recover and enjoy your babies! Reply
  • December 30, 2013 at 9:16 pm
    This is truly a remarkable post. So well written and real. I was totally absorbed reading it and felt like I was right there with you. (Except for the excruciating labor pains and surgery part - eesh! But definitely with the husband who could care less part) The pictures are absolutely amazing. Thank you for sharing them. I have never seen a cesarean birth.Iit was so cool and sweet that I started crying!! Your baby girl is so gorgeous and perfect. You are a great mom and really knowledgeable about your body and your feelings. Congrats Jessica! Reply
    • December 30, 2013 at 9:46 pm
      Thanks Jen! It means a lot to hear responses like this. :-) Reply
  • December 30, 2013 at 9:39 pm
    This is a beautiful story. I love that you shared it with your readers. 7 months ago, I went through the same thing! Only difference was I had an emergency c-section because his heart rate was dropping. It was terrible, to be honest. I was so sick during the surgery. And it was terrifying. But I'm so glad I tried for a VBAC, because I always would have wondered. Reply
    • December 30, 2013 at 9:45 pm
      Exactly Megan, I would have always wondered if it would have worked out. I'm glad things worked out for you in the end, but it can be scary that is for sure! Reply
  • December 30, 2013 at 10:26 pm
    I have been lucky and never had a c-section, I have had friends that did and know how hard it was on them. My first pregnancy was a breeze, my second one i was sick the entire time - love being pregnant both times though and wish I had the chance to do it again. I hate that medical professionals do not always give you all the options, it is your decision and as long as you are making one that is informed and not something that is going to harm you and the baby they should be supportive. Unfortunately in the world we are in and with all the lawsuits it is hard for them to do that. I am glad everything had a happy ending and you have a healthy beautiful baby. Reply
  • December 30, 2013 at 11:39 pm
    Thank you so much for sharing your story and photos. It is nice to see what the C-section was like... my sister had one, but I've never seen photos. Amazing, and beautiful! Reply
  • December 31, 2013 at 7:12 pm
    While I'm sitting here at 39 weeks waiting for baby to make any sort of appearance, this was a great post to read. I was induced with my first and fortunate to make a vaginal delivery and fairly quick too (3 hours and 30 minutes of pushing) I have always been scared about what would happen if I had to have a C-section. Thank you for sharing and I'm so glad your hospital allowed photos to be taken so I can see what it looks like. Excellent post! Reply
  • December 31, 2013 at 9:47 pm
    Thank you for sharing your story. Congratulations on your new baby! I am currently pregnant with baby #2, although I did not have a c-section, I know that I may have with this one. I was also not informed correctly by anyone I know or the doctor, I also believed that if you have a c-section, all of them need to be that way. Thank you for sharing this information, It is very helpful to know moving forward and you did great, the decision is ultimately that of our bodies and babies. Reply
  • December 31, 2013 at 11:57 pm
    I've had 2 c-sections. I wanted to have a VBAC with my 2nd but my OB flat out lied to me about the risks involved. I didn't think to do my own research back then. Now that I have done my research I am ready. We're planning on a 3rd pregnancy soon and I have found a great nurse practitioner/midwife who is skilled in VBA2C. I'm also planning on having a doula. Knowledge and preparation are my weapons this time around. If I end up having another C/S I won't lose sleep over it because all I want is for my baby to be healthy, but I will sure as heck try my hardest to do what's best for me as well. Congratulations on the beautiful baby girl! Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 2:59 pm
    I did a VBAC as well. It was so much different and the recovery was a lot better for me compared to the c-section. You go girl!! Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 3:07 pm
    TOLAC sounds like the worst! All the pain of labor plus the recovery of a C-section. Yaaaaaaay. I had two water births with a midwife. Hospitals weird me out too bad to be in one unless I'm dying. LOL Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 3:12 pm
    I am so sorry the vbac did not work out for you. I labored naturally with my oldest who is now 13, and when I was 10 cm and pushing they announced to me is was butt breach and we had to do an emergency c-section. Holding him in with no pain medicine while they got the room together and prepped me was not fun. With each of my three subsequent boys I labored naturally and delivered vaginally. The same happened when I delivered the surrogate baby in 2012. There is something about a natural vaginal birth that is magical to me, but all that really matters in the end is that the baby comes out healthy. :) Reply
    • January 3, 2014 at 4:10 pm
      Yikes, that does not sound like fun at all! Glad you were able to do the other three with a little less stress, and you are right..as long as they are healthy that is what matters. :-) Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 3:45 pm
    Usually, I tune out after the first few minutes of a birthing story. I don't knw why, I just can't force myself to listen. Yours, however, was great, I felt like I was right there with you! Congrats on your new baby girl! I was totally hungry after my little girl was born. I remember eating an entire turkey sandwich and some of my husband's fries. My fingers are crossed for an easy delivery coming in a few weeks! I'm so nervous. Reply
    • January 3, 2014 at 4:09 pm
      lol, well thanks Ashley. I'll take that as a compliment. :-) Good luck on your upcoming delivery! Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 3:51 pm
    Thank you so much for sharing this! Your labor/delivery sounds a lot like my first one, and I'm attempting a VBAC in a few weeks so I could really relate. I'm sorry your delivery didn't go as planned but I'm so glad you had a healthy baby girl! Wishing you a speedy recovery. Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 4:15 pm
    Congratulations on your new daughter! That sounds like quite the ordeal to have gone through. I've only given birth once and when reading birth stories I realize mine was quite the non-event - I'm so thankful for that! Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 4:24 pm
    The births of my daughters happened so similarly yet so different at the same time... With my first born I was induced, was in labor for 14 hours, and had 3+ house of pushing. I felt I was hit by a train afterwards. With my second daughter I was scheduled to be induced, but went into labor the night before my induction, when I arrived at the hospital I was already at 5cm, but they decided to break my water anyway. That labor was only 3 hours at the hospital and maybe 15 minutes of pushing. Night and day experiences. But I'm so done having kids. Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 4:45 pm
    My first child was a ventouse delivery and my second an emergency c-section. Neither were a very pleasant experience, but I'm incredibly thankful for the medical intervention on both occasions. So much to be thankful for! Congratulations on your baby girl - wishing you a fast recovery! Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 5:56 pm
    I had 3 c-sections. After my first, I had a lot of blood loss and my doctor recommended that I schedule any future pregnancies. Congrats on the birth of your baby and I'm glad that you explored your options. Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 7:41 pm
    Thanks for sharing your story and congratulations on the birth of your daughter. Well, lets keep this quick. 1st child I was induced 2 weeks early with awful Pitocin. Slept for about 7 hours until the contractions were unbearable and asked for an epidural. Slept some more. After an hour and 10 minutes of pushing my son was born:) My daughter was also induced 4 weeks early due to my amniotic fluids being almost dangerously low. I though a c-section would have to be done but the levels were still okay but not for long. Opted for no epi second time around. UGH horrible horrible horrible. Asked for something for pain and started cussing after they shot me up with demerol. My daughter was born after 3 minutes of pushing and 3 hours of hard labor:) She was healthy as can be for a preemie. Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 7:54 pm
    My first child was born via emergency c-section. After almost 50 hours of labor where they gave me nubane and then pitocin - a combination which can stop your labor and any progression, I just stalled and stalled until my blood pressure shot through the roof and they knocked me out and literally yanked my son out. It was very scary to say the least. I was 18 and so uneducated back then. I was given a trial of labor with my twins and then son and both ended in c-sections, and then 13 years after my third c-section, I had my fourth and final in 2005. I just wish I'd been as educated as I am now; things might have turned out differently. All that said, my last three sections were a breeze with my last one, which ended up HAVING to be a traditional cut via a bikini cut, because of all the weight I'd lost and gained and the subsequent paniculus, was by far the easiest. I had virtually NO pain after and it was much easier to move around. You have a wonderfully healthy attitude about all of this, and I think that goes a long way towards a healthy - both emotionally and physically, recovery. I think a lot of what contributed to my last three sections was my weight and the fact that I wasn't a very good advocate for myself. At the end of the day though I have happy, healthy kids, and that's really all that matters. Reply
    • January 3, 2014 at 9:47 pm
      Wow, 50 hours! My first was similar, 2 days of pitocin and no progress which is why I ended up with c-section in the first place. I'm not sure anything would have been different had we not induced though, seems my body just doesn't like to progress very far. Glad your other births were much better for you though. Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 9:19 pm
    Congrats on your new edition, Jessica. Sorry your delivery didn't go as planned but I applaud you for trying a VBAC. Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 9:44 pm
    I had all three of mine vaginal. My daughter just had her daughter (my first granddaughter) Christmas Eve. She was hoping for a quick delivery and instead ending up with a Cesarean. I can only attribute it to her being petite. She feels the doctor did not give her enough time to push, as the baby had crowned. With her being across the country ( me in PA her in CA), I was not able to be there for her. Later, when I spoke to her, she cried and told me how frustrated she was at not being able to have a vaginal birth. While all I could do was reassure her that sometimes these things happen. Sorry to hear about your complications and the Cesarean. I am glad you had a healthy baby girl. Blessings to you and your family. Reply
    • January 3, 2014 at 9:46 pm
      I can understand the frustration and emotions behind her reaction. This pregnancy more than any of my others I was very emotional...about everything! Eventually you realize that the important thing is a healthy baby, but I can relate. :-) Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 9:44 pm
    Our first was delivered Cesarean, but if we ever get to have another, I may try VBAC.. or at least labor a bit to feel like I contributed to the birth some lol Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 10:42 pm
    I had vaginal births with all of my babies. My hardest labor was my first and my easiest was my second. My twins were my OMG! I can't believe this is happening birth story. No drugs what so ever with them. Not intentional. Give me the dang epi any day! Glad you and baby are okay and that in the end, whether vaginal or ceaseran, you have a wonderful new addition to your family! Congrats! Reply
  • January 3, 2014 at 11:10 pm
    I have had 6 babies. All were vaginal but each had issues. First was back labor for 36 hours. Last was a new nurse who failed to rupture my water. Bad things happen to your body when sac and baby are trying to come out as one. Different nurse saw this ruptured the sac and my daughter just gushed out. I've also had a partial placenta previa, a chord around the neck and two pregnancies that the only easy things were the labors. I'm so glad you got to try what you wanted to do and that your little girl got here happy and healthy. Reply

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